Modern Lovers' eMag
Women have always been known as emotional beings. Some women cannot control their emotions and emotionally drain people around them. Research shows however, that not taking everything too seriously and close to heart is a great way to prolong life and maintain nervous system. Quite often women are hurt because they are heartbroken from a failed love or an affair. On occasion women question themselves if they are happy with their man and if that person is loyal to them. Some might feel like their man is using them as a source of pleasure. It is not easy to surely know right away if your sweetie’s intentions are permanent or temporary.
Time doesn’t lie
Only time can put some surety and prove your man’s intentions. If your relationship has passed the 5-year mark and both you and your partner are comfortable with each other – this might be a good indication of a life-long intention. If you both are just friends and he does something special for you almost every day, then there is some reason behind it, this would typically be a strong indication of a long-term interest. Question is: how to find out without him finding out? Well, you can always analyze your man a little further and look at a pattern and a trend in the amount of times he calls your cell phone, the number of e-mails and the types of messages he sends you. All of these clues would put in the right path in confirming your guy’s intentions and knowing if he really likes you for you. Some men nowadays would only prefer a physical relationship with a girl and would use her to feed their physical needs. Most of these “physical relationship” lovers can be visibly identified due to their straightforward nature and inability to continue dating without instant gratification in a form of sex. Some however, might act like they really like you and might even promise marriage just to get in your pants. Here is an example of the most common scenario: he invites you on a perfect romantic date, you get carried away, fall in love, you and him spend a night together and… he loses interest.
See how long it takes him before he wants to get physical with you
A lot of girls often ask: does he like me more than a friend? For example: sometimes if a girl likes a guy too much – she might mistake her “wish” for reality. Look at the way he acts in public with you. If he does any indecent acts that embarrass you, then he is likely in for the sexual reason. If he comes to your place and prefers to “talk less, but act more” (in your bed it is), then it is again apparent that he is only sexually attracted to you. If a guy is not gentle, loud and physical with you, take it as a warning, and proceed with caution!
What are his friends like?
Many of you asked us on JustLoving.Com: How serious is my date? Our experts say: the way your guy treats you in the company of his and your friends is probably one of the easiest way to find out. His friends would be a good indicator of what your guy will be like. If the guy listens to your problems, solves them and is always there for you through thick and thin – then your date is really serious about you and the relationship. This all would show that the person is not only physically and sexually attracted to you, but also wants to be around you and support you in during those emotional times, when you most need it. Only some men are like this though and would lend you a hand in anything you would be going through. These men are true gentlemen who enjoy chivalry and taking care of their lady, these usually are from a good family with good family traditions. Some men would completely ignore your emotional needs, would force their needs upon you, and would use you to make them feel better.
Do you “satisfy” him (no not physically, emotionally mmkay?)
If you still want to know how to see if a guy likes you, then you can spend time with him and using your gut feeling and common sense see if he enjoys spending casual time with you without any involvement of sex. Does he look satisfied after the time spent with you? If he tells you that he wants to see you several times per day or a few times a week then it is clear sign that he likes you and wants you to be with him as much as possible. In any case, allow you guy some personal space and personal time and don’t expect him be in touch every hour of every day – this might just be a killer of a possibly fruitful relationship.
Don’t be afraid to crash and burn
Your date might blind you with expensive gifts and treat you like a princess, but then suddenly stop even talking to you or answer your calls or messages – then this would mean that your date was not strongly attracted to you and it was all infatuation rather than something deep and emotional. Usually, such guy’s manners and attitudes while gifting you would give him away. See if he puts a lot of “heart” into it, or if it seems like a usual thing for him. And if all that gifting stops suddenly, well the interest is lost. Use your judgment and don’t be afraid of betrayal! It’s life and will only make you stronger and get you one step closer to your one and only Prince Charming.
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